The confusing experience of being loved and feeling invisible at the same time has a long-term impact on a person’s fundamental belief about themselves in the world. This might look like low self-esteem, struggles with self-worth, or a sense of incompleteness. We all need to be deeply known. Attunement goes beyond empathy, creating a reciprocal, unbroken, resonant connectedness. Attunement is the act of listening, deeper than a simple dialectic or exchange of words or ideas. Just like listening to music, it is deep hearing, holding, and feeling into another’s experience with our entire being.

Understanding how your attachment style affects your intimate relationships can help you understand your own behavior, how you react and respond to intimacy, as well as your partner’s attachment style. Let’s explore anxious attachment: how it is formed, how it shows up in your life, and how to heal.

Sociey pressures us to always work harder toward the elusive goal of “success.” Are you burned out and exhausted from the never-ending pursuit? Rest, ease, and free time are crucial for maintaining balanced mental health. This blog post provides lots of resources and a guided reflection for you to evaluate your true hopes and desires.

Though blaming others is easy, blaming your parents will not help you heal in any way whatsoever. They did the best they could and are imperfect people too. But understanding what does not belong to you in your relationship with them will allow you to heal.

Small, positive actions every day can add up to large changes over time and help you connect to yourself and your vitality. Let’s look at your morning routine and explore ways to weave in small mindful practices.

The issue with “should” statements comes in two parts: 1) They are value-focused and therefore gnaw at the core of who you are or believe yourself to be, and 2) They are unreasonable but treated as fact. Learning to reframe your thoughts through the language of acceptance can help to free you from unrealistic pressures and guilt.

Because emotions are stored in the body, to fully receive and integrate these signals, we need to feel them. When you make connections and listen to your emotions you can use their messages to better understand yourself, your experience, and your truth. Evolve in Nature therapists in Boulder, CO can help!

Having our needs met, practicing self-care, and setting boundaries does not mean we are narcissistic or toxic. Taking care of yourself does not need to come at the expense of others. Instead, when we are filled, when our needs are met, we can more fully be present with ourselves and others. It is from this space that we can create authentic agreements and be in our integrity.

A Sit Spot is a place in nature that you visit regularly. A Sit Spot can allow you to deepen your understanding of yourself and the natural world. By choosing a sacred place in the natural world that you can visit again and again, you can strengthen the most ancient parts of your human awareness and tune deeply into the rhythms natural world.

Understanding how your attachment style affects your intimate relationships can help you understand your own behavior, how you react and respond to intimacy, as well as your partner’s attachment style. Let’s explore avoidant attachment: how it is formed, how it shows up in your life, and how to heal.

Although dissociation has been studied and categorized into clinical disorders in the DSM (the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders), it is important to understand that dissociation is not pathological, rather it is a safety mechanism that is in place to keep ourselves safe from stressful or traumatic events and situations.

For many people, love feels good, but it can also feel scary! For some, commitment is terrifying - primarily relational commitment. For others, the thought of losing the one they love can leave them feeling panicked. Attachment theory is a helpful lens for understanding our feelings about relationships and commitment.

Spring Equinox, March 20th 2022, marks the end of winter and the beginning of spring in the northern hemisphere. It is a time where we celebrate coming out: coming out of the darkness, out of scarcity, out the harsh cold stillness of winter. It also marks a time of coming into: coming into the light, into dreams of summer growth and fall abundance, into possibilities. It is a time where we wake from the deep sleep of winter, crawl out of our dens, and stretch into the sunlight that falls upon our faces - waking us to the possibilities that may come.

There is a ton of great research that supports the many benefits of walking for physical health as well as emerging research to support the mental health benefits of walking. Like many during the early days of the pandemic, I found myself taking more walks as a way to break up my day and get out of the house, but it soon turned into an essential part of my routine and well-being. Walking is a simple but powerful practice that can yield benefits in many areas of life.

Loneliness is an experience often associated with feeling alone, unwanted, and empty. You can have people in your life and still feel lonely. It is thought that loneliness is painful because human beings need each other to survive as social animals, and the pain of loneliness pushes us to seek out connections with other humans for the survival of our species. Social isolation is rarely survivable.

Why is it so hard for us to give ourselves the care we need? The care that fills our cup, rather than drains it or numbs it? How you view self-care, and whether you believe you are deserving of it or not, points to many internalized messages about your self-worth, agency, and cultural social narratives. It also contributes to the subconscious ways in which you might self-sabotage or self-neglect - leading to further burnout, anxiety, and/or depression.

We make these decisions and set these goals with good intentions, but we actually end up setting ourselves up for disappointment. We set the bar high for ourselves and end up feeling defeated and discouraged when we aren't getting the results we want, and we begin to lose momentum. So how do you get yourself out of these moments and moods where you feel stuck and disheartened? You give yourself the gift of grace.

Losing a pet can feel traumatic, and it can be especially hard to cope with when the death of your pet is unexpected. When your pet’s passing is sudden or has occurred in traumatic circumstances, it can be hard to cope. When this happens it is very common to get stuck in various stages of grief.

Self-care is not a new term, however, how we use it now is. Self-care started gaining traction in the digital age and really gathered steam during the pandemic. In a session, when I ask clients how they might practice self-care, they often report that they don’t. They don’t have time for self-care or they can’t afford it. That they need to finish their to-do list in order to relax enough or to be worthy of self-care. That self-care feels like a chore.

Setting boundaries is often not something we are taught directly but rather learn from others as a byproduct of our formative relationships and environment. By definition, boundaries refer to the outer limits of marked bounds of an object or place. Personal boundaries are multifaceted and can describe physical, emotional, and social perimeters. Reflection, awareness, and communication are all key skills in setting new boundaries and respecting those of others.